What I Want My Daughter to Know About Beauty

 

To my precious Calla Grace,

I am writing to you today, on my 31st altogether, as you are sleeping soundly in your bed. Y'all are not even a yr-old even so and I already worry for your time to come. Your Daddy would say that this isn't annihilation new, I worry about you and your brothers all the time. But this is different. I worry about the earth you are growing up in. I worry what this world is trying to teach you nigh the way that you look.

Yous are the most breathtaking babe I have ever laid eyes on. I love the way that you smile with your whole face–especially with your gorgeous blue eyes. I dearest your soft sparse brown hair and your celestial, unblemished skin. You lot are cute in every sense of the word.

But what I want you to know, sweet girl, is that beauty is then much deeper than what nosotros tin can see. Truthful beauty comes from within.

There is so much that surrounds us that screams for attending to our outward appearance. You can't open up upwards a computer or turn on the tv set without some tainted and distorted view of beauty:  Every bit much bare skin every bit possible, cleavage for all to encounter, and a perfect body to boot. I worry virtually the issue these over-sexualized images accept on your brothers and do everything I can to guard their innocent eyes. Now I besides worry nearly the effects these images will accept on you too–just in a different way. I worry that they will make yous feel like the mode God made you lot isn't skilful enough–and that couldn't be further from the truth.

God knit you together in my womb and has already numbered all of your days (Psalm 139). He knows how alpine you are going to exist when you grow upwards, he knows what your trunk shape will be, and what color your hair will be. He knows when you will start getting gray hairs and the number of lines that volition crease your face when you lot are ninety. He knows because He made you lot. And He says that you arewonderfullymade. That's what your Daddy and I say as well.

When I was young, my mom and dad (your Papa and Lola) would lovingly tell me that I was beautiful within and out. But for some reason, I don't call up that I ever really felt beautiful. In fact, I had this twisted notion that the phrase "beautiful inside and out" was some type of consolation for not beingness outwardly beautiful enough. Sugariness one, that is the opposite of how I want you to come across beauty.

Being told that you are cute on the inside is the most wonderful compliment y'all can ever be given. Don't discount these words, precious girl. A girl who radiates beauty from the inside will ALWAYS be the near cute. Not considering of the size of clothes she wears or how perfect her complexion is, only because she has the love of God within her–and NOTHING is more beautiful than that.

"Your beauty should not come from outward beautification, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of aureate jewelry or fine wearing apparel.Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of corking worth in God's sight."  -ane Peter 3:iii-four

I would love to say that it gets easier as you get older, that you go more than confident and content with the mode that God has made you, simply unfortunately that but wouldn't be the truth. The same insecurities that take plagued women my age when we were young continue to rear their ugly heads even as we get older and supposedly wiser. Equally I look in the mirror these days and come across the toll conveying three babies has taken on my body and the lines that accept found their permanent place along my optics and around my mouth, it makes me lamentable that I don't look how I looked 10 years agone or 15 years agone–when I nevertheless thought I wasn't pretty plenty.

God tells u.s.a. that outward beauty is fleeting (Proverbs 31), which means that is how he designed it all along. He didn't intend for women to look the same in their thirties and forties as they did in their teens or twenties, despite what Hollywood wants us to believe. There is a difference between taking intendance of our bodies and making them idols that we worship with our time and money. Don't autumn into this trap as yous become older, my sweet girl, and I will try non to either. Treat your body with respect and take care of it, just do non let the pursuit of the perfect torso swallow your thoughts. It's not worth it in the stop.

Nearly of all, sweetness girl, I desire you to look for the beauty in others. Surround yourself with people who are gentle and treat others with kindness and respect, who love God and let the Holy Spirit guide their steps. When we dear God, we love others well. It might be difficult to see the dazzler in people who are unkind to you, but continue to look for it. Show kindness even when a sharp answer is warranted. Be a blithesome peacemaker to all those around you lot. Honor others above yourself.

For this, my darling daughter, is true beauty.

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